8 June 2023

When is it the right time to engage in Couples Therapy?

When it comes to couples therapy, the timing of engagement plays a crucial role in nurturing relationship health and longevity. While crisis intervention is commonly associated with therapy, there are significant advantages to proactively seeking couples therapy before crises arise.

Renowned therapists like Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Sue Johnson emphasise the importance of early intervention in couples therapy. Their extensive research and clinical expertise demonstrate that addressing relationship issues before they escalate into crises leads to better outcomes and greater relationship satisfaction. By taking a proactive approach, couples can work on strengthening their bond, enhancing communication, and preventing potential crises from arising.

Reputable journals, such as the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy and the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, further affirm the value of proactive couples therapy. Research studies consistently highlight the positive impact of early intervention. Couples who engage in therapy when their relationship is relatively stable experience improved communication, increased relationship quality, and a reduced likelihood of future conflicts. These findings provide empirical evidence supporting the benefits of proactive couples therapy.

Many couples engaging in couples therapy before crises emerge to effectively navigate relationship transitions and proactively address underlying issues. Major life events and developmental transitions – such as marriage, pregnancy planning, the arrival of a new child, parenting, the transition of adolescents to adulthood, changes in your circumstances, ageing, retirement, health related challenges – can be challenging to navigate and understandably mixed emotions are at play. During such transitions, couples are assisted to proactively adjust, strengthen their connection, and identify new opportunities for growth, ensuring a smoother journey together.

Remember, you don’t have to navigate these trials alone. By embracing the art of timing in couples therapy, you open the door to the support and expertise of a trained therapist who will walk alongside you on your journey of healing. With compassionate guidance and a commitment to your well-being, you can work together to mend the fractures, nurture your love, and emerge stronger, more connected, and ready to face whatever lies ahead.
If your relationship is in crisis – embrace the urgency of crisis intervention when the foundations are shaky, knowing that healing is within reach. If you are travelling well in your relationship – seize the opportunity for a tune-up, knowing that a proactive approach can keep your relationship thriving. With the foundations firmly in place and the power of timing on your side, you can create a love that weathers any storm, a love that stands strong, and a love that grows more vibrant with each passing day.

I am a Senior Clinical Social Worker, Supervisor and Couple and Family Therapist with over 20 years of experience based at Mindright Clinical Psychologists, Bondi Junction. With both telehealth and face-to-face sessions available, I am dedicated to helping couples navigate relationship challenges, whether in times of crisis or as a proactive measure for ongoing relationship care. With compassion, skilled guidance and support, I help couples to strengthen their foundations, enhance communication, and cultivate a resilient and vibrant love. Take the proactive step towards a healthier relationship and reaching out today.

Dr Mary Cantrill