WHY ARE WE AFRAID OF DISAPPOINTING OTHERS?
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9:32 pm, 17 November 2014
THE FEAR OF DISAPPOINTING OTHERS TENDS TO STEM FROM OUR LOW SELF ESTEEM. WE TRY AND PLEASE OTHERS SO THAT WE CAN GET THEIR APPROVAL AND LOVE. LOW SELF ESTEEM HAS AN IMPACT ON VARIOUS PSYCHOLOGICAL ISSUES. LOW SELF ESTEEM DERIVES FROM OUR CHILDHOOD AND THE MESSAGES THAT WE WERE GIVEN AS A CHILD FROM...
Resolving Behavioural Difficulties in Children using Collaboration
Posted by admin 12:12 am, 15 November 2014
Recently I went to a professional development workshop with Dr Ross Greene, who is a guru from the USA who specialises in working with kids with behavioural problems. He has worked with kids with ADHD, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Conduct Disorder and other emotional difficulties. He has...
It’s time we all understood what our schemas are!
Posted by admin 11:39 pm, 10 November 2014
Based on our earliest experiences with our primary caregivers, we tend to form fixed
beliefs and expectations about how likable and deserving we are, how
safe or dangerous the world is, and also how we expect others to treat us.
American psychologist Jeffrey Young is the founder of schema therapy...
Prioritising Your Tasks and Putting Stressors into Perspective
Posted by admin 10:21 am, 1 June 2014
Whether you are a working parent, a University or school student, a single professional, unemployed, or a couple without children, everyone has to put their priorities in perspective. We all have weeks with bills and/or budgets (or pocketmoney) to consider, deadlines to meet, time to choose enjoyable...
Knowing your common thinking errors
Posted by admin 10:17 am, 25 May 2014
The Cognitive Model of depression states that it is not necessarily the situation that affects the way we feel and behave but our thoughts about it. Challenging our thoughts about a situation so that they are both rational and healthy has been found to significantly improve mood and better manage...
What Drives us? Your drive may be fueled by something unexpected by Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D.
Posted by admin 10:38 pm, 30 April 2014
Being successful provides rewards, and the stimulation intrinsic to being driven can result in the self-perpetuating nature of such behavior. However, financial, personal, or social gains from success, as well as any addiction to the high of your own drive, may be only a small part of...
Five Ways Emotions Guide Teens to Academic Success PART II by Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D.
Posted by admin 10:31 pm, 30 April 2014
Emotions are indispensable tools in social interactions. The information they can provide when you are able to understand and interpret them is essential to social success. In a previous blog I summarized some of the psychological research involving emotions that can help a teen achieve...
Five Ways Emotions Guide Teens to Academic Success by Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D.
Posted by admin 9:07 pm, 23 April 2014
Emotions contribute significantly to your intelligence and your ability to navigate through your life. Understanding your emotions is essential, considering the information they can provide, the ways in which they affect the decisions you make, how much they determine the ways in which...
Why would we stay with love that is impossible? by Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D.
Posted by admin 8:53 pm, 23 April 2014
Impossible love is shaming. Shame experienced in impossible love is not ordinarily how you would expect shame to feel. As I’ve noted in other posts that have to do with intimate relationships, in such situations shame is felt as disengagement, as a letdown, a disappointment,...
Shame: A Hidden, Unhealthy, and Powerful Emotion Published on April 17, 2014 by Mary C. Lamia, Ph.D.
Posted by admin 9:49 pm, 16 April 2014
As a self-conscious emotion, shame informs you of an internal state of inadequacy, unworthiness, dishonor, or regret about which others may or may not be aware. Another person, circumstance, or situation can trigger shame in you, but so can a failure to meet your own ideals or standards...